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How are you?
>Thanks, but you don't have to pretend to care about that. I know you don't like me. I tried to talk to you as a friend in March, but it was like talking to a wall. You really don't have to greet me, smile at me, or ask me how I am. In fact, remember how we talked last year before we met, i.e., not at all? I'd appreciate it if we could go back to that. Thanks.
For context, this female coworker and I got close, but when I asked her out, she said she wanted to be just friends. So I tried to be just a friend, but she wasn't interested in that either. And now we're stuck in an awkward, tepid acquaintance dynamic.
But I want out. I'm sick of having to say "hi" and faking a smile for absolutely no reason. So I've been trying to gray rock her, but she hasn't lowered her energy because she's just a very nice person (and I'm not). I don't want to hurt her or cause problems at work, because we'll see each other every day and have to interact a handful of times a week.
So how do I gently and politely ask her to please fuck off? Above is what I came up with, but ChatGPT has told me it's rude, will cause tension, and even get me into trouble with HR. What's your human opinion?
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>>34437126
It comes across as supremely self absorbed. Just say "Good" and let the conversation die out on its own. What you're doing is like throwing gasoline on a fire and hoping that it'll go out. Don't put energy, thought or words into a discussion that you don't want to be having.
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>>34437126
I know it hurts, and I don't like to have to answer that question myself, but like >>34437134 said, it's just part of most people's standard greeting protocol. Don't think too hard about it, just say something like 'doing fine, thanks', and proceed to do your thing.
That long answer you want to say will most definitely lead, in the best case scenario, to an even more awkard situation between you.
So, just answer without thinking too much about it, and proceed with work. Maybe with time it'll evolve to just a 'morning' or 'afternoon' followed by a slight nod.
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>>34437126
Agree with the other anons this is not a good message to send. It seems like on some level you want to punish or hurt her for not wanting to go out with you. You should meditate on why a person who rejected you acting friendly afterwards upsets you.
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>>34437126
ignore her just tell her "all good" and end the convo dont ask her "how are you" or proceed with any greetings. "live and let live.
However make sure you are extremely professional and work with her without any prejudice and make sure you dont slip out of this because it will start to dawn on her if ever she cares. If she does not care then there's the answer dude - She is deeply not interested in maintaining any sort of relation to you except as coworkers. Its not a bad thing either, go for the other girls especially outside your work space. Nothing is worth loosing your job over some bitch these days. Not when they sleep around with anyone and for free at that. So please don't loose job or your sleep over this shit. I am sure you are hurt but suck it up and move on.
Do not let this thing take over you and start sending her messages as other anons said. HR will really fuck you if she is malicious about it.
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Like a lot of other replies here, I think you shouldn't send this text. Both of you are already apathetic towards each other. No need to make that more known and make her think you're some obsessive creep. A simple "I'm alright, thanks" when she greets you is enough. Not worth malding over the lost connection, redirect your energy to someone who actually will reciprocate it. Hope work goes well today
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>>34437126
stop caring what people think and just do shit. be polite, be helpful. but ultimately, stop caring, i have pandered and held back so much only to get screwed over worse than i could have ever imagined, by the people i was being nice and considerate of.
just fucking do things, say things, even acknowledge that it may be awkward.
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>>34439482
Everyone else already knows that's how I feel about them. This special girl got special treatment, because I hoped she'd give me a special treat. Now it's time I withdraw my graciousness.
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>>34439634
I'm mentally ill, but my intelligence is just fine. However, the OP was written from a bad place. I slept on it and figured a much better course of action would be to start ignoring her completely from now on.
>>34439666
God forbid a man is honest about his intentions.
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