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I feel like I have nothing to talk about with others. Seems like I've been this way since elementary, all I ever talked about was television and video games. I just got out of a relationship where I shut myself down to be "the man of the house" and now I'm this hard, cold, stoic, boring mother fucker. I go to concerts, but whatever, it's not like I care to start a convo off going to see oasis. I'm doing well professionally, and then I see that other people I work or have worked with going to parties and having friends to talk to and do stuff with, and I feel like it's something I can do to, if I can just figure it out. Is going out to more events the answer? When I was younger I had gf who said people should look for their tribe, and now I have a fantasy of finding a group or anybody I can be friends with, but even if I did, I wouldn't know what to talk about.
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most "people" arent people
most people are boring, themself. just like you said
>nothing to talk about
thats boring. which is fine. not everyone has to be interesting.
>personality
what you mean is probably character. a persona is a facade that i set up, when im with xyz people. depending on the one i deal with in the moment, my persona changes. but the character stays the same.
>tribe
yea maybe she was right about that. feathers flock together or how the saying goes.
>going out
how is something external going to resolve something internal? idk. are you fine with yourself? aka have you accepted how/who you are? are you trying and striving to be more of an interesting character? aka trying to be something that you arent?
"interesting" people can tell in an instant if you are uninteresting, at least i can.
boring people always like to talk about their job/profession or money or family. which, is, fine dont get me wrong.
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Op here. My dad has told me on several occasions he's shy. But he's a popular guy, he's the center of attention at parties or at the dinner table. When there's a family dinner, the table becomes quiet if my dad goes to the bathroom, he brings life to a setting. He says it's because it's because he just talks about anything, no matter how dumb. I just don't know how to do that. I grew serious like my mom and not goofy like my dad. I think I just need to experience life more, watching TV after work won't help me build up character.
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Kinda in the same boat here. I used to make lame jokes when I was younger to get attention, and it worked for a while, but slowly distanced myself from people and here I am now, middle aged, boring, keep to myself, avoid convos, and honestly I don't really want to change that. Not having people on your life is kinda relaxing.
Lonely, but solitude is calming.... unsure if I want to change that.
There used to be people I hang out with years ago, but they weren't my tribe, and I was pretending to be someone I wasn't to be with them, so i stopped trying.
But now what? Find my own community in church or whatever? The thought of building relationships with people and talking to them about anything feels exhausting now...
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No. I can be gregarious. The relationship kind of isolated me and made me a harder person so I could tell my ex what's what. I did well in classrooms and work settings because I could talk about the work. But outside of those places, or even in them, I'm at a loss of what to discuss if it's not work related.