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so i said something to a friend which she found extremely offensive and sexist, i talked with several people and none of them find it to be sexist, but now she thinks that. anyway, she then immediately exploded and went on to give me a huge ass rant about drama hat happened like 3 to 5 years ago, acting like i only just did those things recently, completely ignoring that at the time, she was completely fucked up, hurt me and others over and over again over a longer period of time by being a really manipulative person, creating one drama after another, etc. and now she acts like i am the same person as i was back then, ignoring all the mean shit she did back then, and talking shit to others about me, as far as i could tell. i apologized for everything but what does she me expect to do now?

i don't get it. on one hand she expects everyone to see her the victim of whatever happened years ago and that she is forgiven for her actions, on the other hand she is still super angry with some of my mishaps, none of which was nearly as bad as what she did or others that were actually involved. it seems like she is making me a scapegoat. i don't think that's fair, i think it's really shortsighted and misses the point. i really dont see how this has anything to do with the current situation. i guess it triggered some kind of trauma but it's been 5 years, it's time to move on and let the past be the past.

so anyway, any thoughts? she isn't friends with me anymore, i barely had anything to do with her anyway, and now i am thinking, wether or not to write her one last time, that i think her behavior is inappropriate given what happened and how many of the things she said aren't relevant at all and then leave her be. or i just leave her be and dont write her. because i know the moment i write her, i will have another exhausting unnecessary fight on my hands with a person that is really contentious.

what do you think?