I feel ya. I'm turning into my dad (unfortunately). Looking like him day by day, too, hate it.
All we can do is focus on ourselves so we can at least try not to repeat their mistakes.
(Also as a word of advice, pills and therapy is a waste of time and money)

>>34440027
Yeah I stopped with the pills and therapy. My life is just so.. nothing. I feel cursed and resent her for having me. I have nothing and nobody

>>34440034
Do you have honesty? Integrity? Compassion for others? The will to do good and avoid harm? If not, then the reason your life is nothing is because you haven't developed anything worthwhile in yourself yet. But if you do have those qualities, then your issue is that you've taken what's most valuable in life and ranked it as 'nothing'.

Millions of men all across the world are tearing their hair out wishing for an honest, compassionate woman. If you look, you'll find someone.

>>34440071
Sure, but I'm a homebody and don't know where to meet people.

>>34440034
You have only what you make for yourself in this world, whether that be wealth, a career, a hobby, or a family of your own. But that's not what should define you, because we all have to leave what we built in this world eventually.
Having somebody is only temporary before they hurt and/or leave you.
May sound cliche, but yeah, God is the answer. Best answer is to develop a healthy spiritual life with Him, and what you ask of Him, He will provide.

>>34440077
I do believe in a higher power, but I'm not interested in Christianity outside of the teachings of Jesus. I've already been a part of a church and its community and it did me more harm than good.

>>34440086
>Don't talk to women
>Posts in a woman's thread
Off to a great start

My mom was twice divorced with 4 kids going to community college for nursing when she was my age. I'm doing better in a handful of ways but overall much worse. Don't compare yourself to someone who was operating in a very different environment than you. I don't really have a direction either it's rare that I feel something strongly enough to trust my own decisions. Meds dull me out they're a painkiller not a solution, traditional therapy just pisses me off the only thing I've found helpful is DBT which kind of feels like treating yourself like a very rational preschooler that you need to make behave. Like the practical side of it making myself more functional I have worked on but nothing really changes the way that I feel.
I don't really have any advice but hopefully some camraderie counts for something?

>>34440102
Thank you. Do you have people though? I moved and I don't really have anyone where I moved to.

>>34440106
Just family.
And I don't think my siblings like me very much.
Honestly the thing keeping me from killing myself or going crazy rn is regularly having lunch with my dad.
I know it's kind of stupid but if they still have pen pal programs you should sign up for one. Just to have a buddy. You never know, some older ladies make surprisingly good company.

>>34440010
Look at your mother and ask herself why you think she is the way she is. Try to do this as an outside observer without emotional attachment. Think about what led her to where she is and what path you can take to avoid it.

Also, never put your eggs all in one basket. You need a life outside of a relationship. Friends, hobbies, interests, etc.

>>34440076
Community college is a good place to meet people.

>>34440153
Bad things that happened to her in childhood that was largely outside of her control shaped her early adult years, including having my older sibling.

>Also, never put your eggs all in one basket
Yeah, I learned that the hard way.

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>>34440010
The decline of men approaching women functions like a political shock even when nobody frames it that way.
It reshapes family formation. Fewer approaches mean fewer relationships, later marriages, lower birth rates, and accelerating demographic decline. That feeds directly into labor shortages, pension stress, immigration politics, and generational conflict. Governments can pass incentives but they cannot legislate attraction or courage.

Second, it polarizes gender politics. Many women interpret non-approach as disinterest or resentment while many men experience it as rational risk avoidance shaped by social sanction, economic precarity, and fear of misreading norms. Each side builds narratives about the other and political movements harvest those grievances.

Third, it weakens informal social trust. Approaching a stranger used to be a low-level civic act that trained people to tolerate rejection, ambiguity, and difference. When that disappears, people retreat into apps, algorithms, and identity-filtered spaces which harden group boundaries and reduce empathy.

Fourth, it shifts power to platforms and institutions. Dating apps, HR departments, and legal frameworks mediate intimacy that used to be negotiated face to face. That concentrates cultural authority in systems optimized for liability management and profit, not human bonding.

Finally, it produces downstream radicalization. Large populations of unattached men historically correlate with instability, withdrawal, or extremist politics. Most do not become violent but many disengage from civic life, work, and optimism itself which is politically corrosive.

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>>34440173
>Bad things that happened to her in childhood that was largely outside of her control shaped her early adult years
How did it shape her? Why did she give up? Why do you think she chose to react to her situation that way? How do you think she views the world and what impact do you believe it has on her current behavior?

>>34440200
Was this the intended thread for this post?

>>34440209
She's a traditional woman and was forced to do some unconventional things, and it set her life onto a trajectory she wasn't prepared for but also never adapted to. I think she just gave up and resigned a long time ago because she lost the energy and admittedly made some poor decisions of her own that had permanent consequences.

>>34440010
People have this idea that they are supposed to be reaching some predetermined level of excellence and that the failure to fulfill this imagined potential demonstrates their failure as a human being.
It doesn't.
No one is checking your progress. No one is tallying your successes other than you.
Enjoy life. Work hard for the gratification of a job well done. Pour creativity and love into a craft. Laugh with your friends. Cherish the support they give and give back in return. Eat a good meal you made yourself. Eat a good meal someone you love made for you. Hike till your legs give out. Drink the coldest water you've ever had. Meet someone else. Someone who makes you smile. Support one another. There will be other people to care for. Other people who will love you.

Also, maybe check on your thyroid. Make sure you're getting omega-3s, iodine, and folate. That could be affecting your mental health a bit.

>>34440287
Take your meds

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>>34440010
https://youtu.be/SbQu55bMvZs?t=1566

Men have declared spiritual jihad on women and it shows as they slowly begin to lose it. This is it anons, the real gender war has begun, not the fake one with countless pronouns that is being shilled everywhere in the media, but the real war between man and woman.
Women are about to learn a harsh lesson.

Don't talk to women, don't help them, don't ask them out, don't have dating apps, don't interact with them. If a woman approaches you be nice and respectful but do not flirt or overtly joke, treat them as an equal man and then leave after the reason for the conversation is over. If a girl comes up to you and flirts kindly turn her down, if she asks you out suddenly say no thank you, don't make up a reason she only has agency because of some external reason not because she likes you. Be vague when talking about your life or weekend plans, anything you do or do with them like hooking up will be picked apart and analyzed by her and her online friends. You are a traitor and not helping anyone if you fall for their tricks.
If men can't display a modicum of power over society, this world and women, then I guess they don't hold much power at all.

>>34440010
>the only thing I really wanted was to be happily married.
Marriage died in 1965 anon. Didn't your boomer mother tell you? She put a gun against it's head and pulled the trigger.
You don't get to be married.
What you get is maybe a few 1-2 year long situationships.
Your best future is you getting knocked up by one of them and having a kid.

>>34440215
It's an INTJ

>>34440426
When did we start using INTJ as a polite euphemism for faggot?

>>34440153
>You need a life outside of a relationship.
Only a woman could give such advice because a woman doesn't understand male desires.
>Yes I love being an unmarried corporate cogwheel
said no man ever but lots of women

>>34440010
She sleeps a lot because motherhood is exhausting. And yes she is still your mother and you live with her. And emotionally that's exhausting to her. But it's an exhaustion she chose and one she even enjoys because it's a price she would gladly pay again and again for free. Because she's your momma and she loves you.

>>34440010
Every woman becomes her mother. That's their tragedy. And no man becomes his. That's his."

Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest

>>34440027
my dad had at least success with women. all I do is get cucked left and right for the last 7 relationships and my libido is unusually high for someone who is 43. I just want to have a committed romantic and sexual relationship with a woman who isn't a whore. why is that too much to ask?

>>34440426
damn, that's my type

>>34440444
I'm not gay though, I just see women as a means to end and they have soft bodies and nice voices and look sexy naked. but can't really see them as human.