>>34441685
Looks like she didn't feel a connection for some reason. Could be for many reasons, from personal preferences in terms of appearance, or the conversation, or hobbies... it happens, doesn't mean it was your fault in any way, shape or form. I know it sucks, but at least she was polite and kind.

Personally, I think trying to dig deeper into it or insisting upon it will give no favorable results. I'd just brush it off and say something like 'Ah thats a shame (her name here); I really enjoyed out talk the other day, you seemed like a great person to be around! I hope I didn't upset or bother you. But I do understand. Thank you for your time, I Hope things go well for you, too'.

>>34441685
dont take it too personally. So many girls out there who date just for looking for fun and they have other reasons like a guy who was already in their mind.
She probably had some other guy in mind when she dated you and you didn't turn out to be exactly like him. I am really sure that she just didn't find you to fit her ex's image or an ideal lover's profile.
Girls usually go with a particular personality and stick with it. Rarely you will find them being open to the opposites.
Anyways please dont these messgaes too personally. you will be fine.

>>34441685
youre ugly bro

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>>34441685
You give off friend vibes
The way to stop being a friend is to add sexuality to the interaction.
You probably avoided anything sexual the entire date, which is why her brain sensed that you might not be sexual(women's idea of a man) categorized you as a friendly guy(not man) that other people might like.

>>34441685
well, you dodged a bullet with that one mate, phew

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I hate it when people type like this holee fook

>>34441685
You're too innocent and she's too guilty, that's why she calls you wholesome. Because she is unwhole. This happens with girls and guys too, I've known guys who send the exact same message to girls. It's because he's a fuckboy and he met a truly innocent girl and he felt too much shame, didn't want to "ruin" her so sends the "you're wholesome that's why we cannot be" message.

It means you're probably a kind guy OP and not the fake nice guy. Fake nice guys get the sex, good guys get the rejection messages. Try not to get too angry it just means you gotta look for a different type of girl. In a different way too, if you use dating apps or websites you won't find your match there

>>34441685
read between the lines: "she is not looking for a wholesome person so basically a white trash fuckboy"

She just wanted to get down with you after the date. Dont get too sad its alright you will find another one.

>>34441685
>What do I respond?
Why would you respond to that, just ignore that spam

>>34441685
>she can't even articulate why she doesn't like you or isn't honest enough to tell you why
You dodged a bullet. You don't need to play these retarded games. Be thankful, dude. Trust me. This is a very good thing.

>>34441685
>What does she mean by this?
It means you're not getting a second date and there's nothing you can do about it. There are various possible reasons why, but the reasons don't matter: there's nothing you can do about any of them.

>What do I respond?
"Well, obviously I'm sad to hear that; but thank you for letting me know. Best of luck to you!"

>>34441685
Why would the most amazing girl you ever met want you? Just be reasonable.

>>34441685
>"Thanks for calling me "wholesome". Glad I made that impression. :D"
Just casually point out you are a raging perv.

>>34441685
>What do I respond?
Send a simple, "ok, you too", and don't reply anymore, and move on the the next one, because she didn't feel the sparks for you it seems.

>>34441709
This

>>34441709
>Could be for many reasons
No, it's one reason. OP wasn't attractive enough.

>>34441685
>What does she mean by this? What do I respond?
Don't respond, retard

She called you wholesome. Like a little boy. Awwww!

How did she want OP to behave? Like call her rude names and put her down? I don't get it. How are you supposed to behave on a first date. I would usually just ask them stuff and try to keep the conversation going buy talking about random stuff. But i have been ghosted on the last 4 dates ive been on which is when i gave up, this was like two years ago by now and havent been on a date since. Havent fucked in 3 years and cope by doing semen retention

Honestly? You gave her the ick and she is just trying to work things in a way that she can not feel guilt.

Dating sucks. This will happen lots and it is annoying because attraction really is a black and white thing, yet people overcomplate it. It's ok for either party to not feel a connection, but the mental gymnastics around it to protect the ego get old.

Tldr: Just reply and say "it's ok haha you smelled kinda weird anyway so it probably wouldn't have worked, had fun though! Good luck" then never reply to her again.

>wholesome person
You didn't try to fuck her and she's getting the vibe that you're inexperienced and she doesn't want to A. corrupt you and B. have mediocre sex on the 3rd or 4th date

You don't. She made it clear she doesn't want to see you again and that it was generally nothing against you. You aren't a bad person OP and it doesn't mean you aren't enough, she just has a different path that she wants to take.

Look at it this way; would you rather she lie to herself and be in a relationship with you where she is miserable? Where she eventually cheats and breaks your heart 10 fold? I don't think you want a woman who is going to lie about her feelings and pretend everything is fine when it's not just to make you feel better about yourself. Would you also hold back your problems to appease them or be honest with what is going on?

Be happy she had the maturity to end it now rather than before it got in too deep. And specially be happy she wished you well and still wants to see you succeed, so many women now will literally tell you to kill themselves and try to mob them on their socials over one average first date.

>>34441709
This, but also
>Ah thats a shame (her name here); I really enjoyed out talk the other day, you seemed like a great person to be around! I hope I didn't upset or bother you. But I do understand. Thank you for your time, I Hope things go well for you, too
Shut the fuck up. Just say "I understand". If she was not so wordy, you could say "Are you sure?", but she is 100% sure from her message.

>>34443084
Why would you reply with that? That is immature

>>34443134
I was trying to give a polite answer to match hers. I thought it'd be weird/give of the feeling you are offended if you replied with a 2-word sentence.

Maybe something like 'thats alright, it was nice. good luck!'?

>>34443167
Personally I wouldn't provide an affirmation like "thats alright", "no worries" etc cus it would make me feel like a timid beta accepting being undesirable.

But yeah, something more terse like that to show you're looking in another direction already

The last time this happened to me I just said "cancun dreaming" because our conversations were based a lot on abstract philosophy and she spoke in secret messages while on holiday in mexico.

>>34441685
she's solid for being able to give you a clear rejection that way at all. you know how many people would just ghost, start avoiding you, breadcrumb to keep you on the hook because they like the attention, start being mean to you so you'd break up with them first etc? accept it and tell her you appreciate the honesty. maybe ask her for advice on what you can do better on a date with another girl. but you just have to respect that she's not into you. she's REALLY not into you if she's giving you a rejection the day after the first date, she knew during the date. from just these texts alone she's being polite/nice but in a distant way if you can tell. i'm sure she has decent social skills and anyone with decent social skills will make any hangout/date seem like it went well, it's just having conversations and doing stuff together after all.

btw it sounds like she's trying her hardest to say something positive about you to make this rejection softer but if all she could muster up is "enthusiastic and cheerful" and didn't say you were funny or sweet or cool or smart it could mean well. she could tell you were interested in her but that's pretty much it. to me it sounds like she finds you too boring/dumb/lacking in depth for there to be any emotional connection (what she means by something missing)

>>34441685
You were too sanitized during the date, you have to show a little more of your personality

>>34441685
>What does she mean by this?
She meant you didn't get her wet.
She wanted to be dominated and feel that you were a dangerous monster who could rape or kill her at any moment.
This is what get women's pussies wet. It's what gets them jerking off over the thought of a second date with you.
Being a nice guy to them dries them up like the Sahara desert.

>>34441685
>What does she mean by this? What do I respond?
isnt it obvious? you just got rejected and she doesnt feel the same about you as you feel for her, shes not excited about you

>>34441685
>What does she mean by this?
she actually likes you and wants you to continue to pursue her so she can show her bobs and vagene
>What do I respond?
send dozens and dozens of voice messages and pictures every day for months and then she has to eat ALL the eggs

>thought she was the most amazing girl I’ve ever met
Well, there's your issue. You've met like 3 of them and the first was your mom.
>proper job, 4 languages, does charity work, super athletic
Yeah, she's good at lying too. 4 languages? Yeah, English, Pidgin, Creol, and ASL.
Dude if you're falling for that shit you're desperate and not fucking thinking. Try getting your head on straight and maybe go out drinking with friends, be an asshole.

>Alright, if you change your mind lemme know.
And if she ever contacts you back, you set up a second date and nothing else.