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>ASL
19/F/USA

>Looking for
lately ive been feeling like something is missing in my life & i think having someone i can truly bond with will heal my soul. my ultimate goal is to form a serious relationship. i want a lifelong partner (aka a husband) that i can eventually meetup with irl. i will get to know you first and see where things take us. please dont add me just to immediately sext me, not interested in that until we've established that sort of relationship. being able to vc sometimes is a plus.

>Not looking for
ghosters, unironically rude people, people immediately interested in sex, doesnt contribute to conversation, consistently taking forever to respond, people who do not live in the USA, people not looking for a serious long-term relationship, people who dont want to have children, NEETS

>Interests
singing, video games, cooking, tv shows, voice acting, fashion, food, doomscrolling, hiking, animals, just started getting into jigsaw puzzles and i love it

>Discord
clevercassie

>>34749400
Holy based

I saw a comment on here the other night that made me start thinking about you. I wasn't sure if it was directed at me or not. It wasn't overly specific, but it certainly felt like it could have been directed at me, then again maybe I really am just schizo. I really just want to say, I miss you, or at least, the thought of you, and my heart aches whenever you cross my mind. Sometimes I open a browser I haven't touched in a while and it's like a time capsule that has tabs open of things you sent or I scroll through my gallery and have screenshots or images you had sent me or I had meant to send you and it makes me feel so sick and blue. I don't know why I'm even writing this, I guess just to get out the feelings that I felt the other night. I'd like to think if we were still talking you'd be glad for me and where I'm at lately. I truly hope you're happy. That's all I ever wanted for you.

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Where do I find men who aren't ONLY interested in "having sex" and "video games"? I'm ok with sex once a week, but men, even the nice ones, seem to want multiple times a day and that's not sustainable for me. Does this make me asexual or not straight? Looking for genuine answers on how/where I can find them, or any book/vid resource recommendations on this

>>34749426
That's really beautiful anon, what happened to them?
>>34749433
Once a week might be on the lower end of normal. Multiple times a day is a lot. I don't have advice but both of those frequencies seem extreme-ish to me

>>34749448
I appreciate the input, what do you consider "normal" frequency for you, OP?

>>34749457
3 to 5 times a week seems average to me. I don't think it makes you asexual or not straight by the way. You just have a lower sex drive than the guys you're meeting. I don't know how you'd find lower drive guys tho

>>34749448
I'm just being forthright. I'm not even sure if the comment I read was actually talking about me because from my perspective, I didn't think things ended amicably. I don't want to get too specific, but we stopped talking, it was for the best. It was draining the both of us and bringing out the worst in me. I treasure the moments we had before it all went to shit.

>>34749433
nice i cant sleep gif anon

>>34749472
Yeah, thanks.
It's a problem I've had for 12 years now - I'd often start off thinking "I'm sure it will become less frequent as time goes on" and then it would get to 6-12 month mark and I'd feel horrible, like a zombie doll toy.
And starting a relationship by saying "Hey I can only have sex ~1 times a week" also sounds awful, I don't want to frame intimacy like some quantity-limited timed transaction. But I just can't do multiple times a day. 3 times a week sounds doable considering what I've endured in the past though.

>>34749478
did go through the same thing and i wish him well and become a better person.

>>34749507
I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about that from the beginning of a relationship. Sexual incompatibility can be a big problem. Letting your partner know you have a low sex drive and only want sex once a week is good to do. You'd want to know if they were hypersexual and wanted it 3 times a day, right? Don't think of it in terms of a transaction, it's more like expectations. If it wasn't sex but, I don't know, whether you wanted kids or wanted to travel, you wouldn't feel as weird bringing it up would you? It's a difference in lifestyle is all. Feeling the way you've described seems miserable, you shouldn't have to suffer for your partner like that.
>>34749478
Something kind of similar happened to me as well so I can relate. Little things remind me of them and I treasure what we had even if I know there's no going back. I'm sorry that happened to you even if it was for the best, losing people is always painful.

>>34749523
>>34749542
Yeah it's a pretty common thing on this board which is why it was probably not about me. Lots of people on here that behave this way, but I had to just put this out there.

>>34749478
Oh yeah, saw that post on the missed connections thread (why was that deleted???).

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>>34749433

>>34749579
Idk I think the jannies don't like em

>>34749433
>Where do I find men who aren't ONLY interested in "having sex" and "video games"?
There are men everywhere, I don't know what to say
>I'm ok with sex once a week, but men, even the nice ones, seem to want multiple times a day and that's not sustainable for me.
I personally have a high sex drive so I could have sex every single day and honestly even twice (sometimes 3 times) in the same day, but I can see that's not really normal or needed. I'd be happy if I could have sex just once a week, but ideally a few more times for me. Other guys have a lower sex drive so maybe they'd match better with you.
>Does this make me asexual or not straight?
No, if you are attracted to men then no. You just aren't that big into sex, it is what it is. My brother is the opposite end of it compared to me. I could have sex and enjoy doing it with a woman every single day while I suspect he would only do it once every few months, but only if the woman engages it.

>>34749433
Congrats, you just found one! My discord is whuhuhwhathuh let's chat ^^

M, 20. Would love to get to know someone. Into writing, walking, video games, been hitting the gym a little. I am straight, just throwing that out there. Like, I'm fine with chatting with a gay guy obviously but please don't come around expecting to see anything.

Horny as hell too though. Actually not that horny just kinda like, hard to explain. So I can kinda trade. Would be nice to chat with a woman but I'm not holding out much hope. I'm more than fine with just having a chat with a man and chilling.

Discord: Moonflare_0063
Teleguard: GGLH8PECW

i'm up might go buy a soda and scratch off from a corner store. that guy really pulled my inner trashiness out

>>34750206
What kinda soda? Good luck on your scratcher

Male, 32

I need to vent a little because things kind of suck right now. Broke up with girlfriend 6 months ago because of her flipping out over me getting contacted for a job interview. I Don't hate her, but I have realised that she probably had adopted a bunch survival tactics that basically ammount to manipulation, and I am slowly trying to un-fuck my mind.

Winter depression is kicking my ass this year and I had to move back in with my parents because I am broke as fuck right now and don't have a job. Can't find one in my specific field either so I am just applying for anything I could reasonably do, which means competing with all the other desparate people.

Nothing is fun anymore, everyone else has moved on with life and I ended up loosing the one thing that was keeping me a bit on track (the gf).

On top of that: questioning my personal style/expression, balding quite badly, want to get back into hobbies but cant because broke etc.

By the time I will have caught up employment-wise and have any stability I will be pretty old, and I feel like everything is just getting worse and worse right now.

my telegram is lark31swe if anyone wants to talk.

>>34750862
>By the time I will have caught up employment-wise and have any stability I will be pretty old
fucking same, looking grim and bleak

>>34749426
D is that you?

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32/F/US

I like attention. I'm currently out with a sprained knee and am bored. I enjoy reading, concerts, hiking (how I got into this predicament), and have 2 cats. Give horror book and TV show recs pls

Snap: cantbehecked
BOO SNAP BOO listen ok I like it

I need a friend, an ear, stability, someone.

disc: samdrifts

i cant stop crying i keep thinking the bad thoughts it hurts so much

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thinking of offing myself. recently lost my only support system, someone I have been with for the past 7 years suddenly up and left me to be with someone else. so I have to move back into my abusive mothers house and my boss wants to fire me as well. I don't see a point in living anymore. been alive for almost 30 years and it is a constant stream of abuse and misery. I will never heal nor be happy. I want out.

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22/mtf/US
L,T, bpd, audhd, yay
lonely neurotic traumatized loser

>looking for
people smarter than me to post to about legends z-a and modern pokemon
im not particularly into vgc i just like the designs and world

>not looking for
anyone who plays league, men, flirting, small talk, very dumb/very insecure people (not what i need sorry)

talk to me like you know me
i like attention, game analysis, weed, but i only want someone to talk to about pokemon

>discord
lumvyiuex

>>34751638
No I'm not your person. All I can really say is if the person who wrote that comment the other day sees this, then add me in a month or two. I might have your contacts but I'm not even sure if you're my person, and the last thing I'd want is to reach out to somebody who wants nothing to do with me.

i've drank so much and i dont even feel a buzz this is so fucking stupid i just want to stop feeling this way i'm still crying

>>34751913
>recently lost my only support system, someone I have been with for the past 7 years suddenly up and left me to be with someone else. so I have to move back into my abusive mothers house and my boss wants to fire me as well.
It feels like I'm reading about myself. The worst happened to me, I'm still recovering from it but you can make it through anon. Just don't move in with your mom whatever you do, even couch-surfing is better than that.
>>34751950
Yeah it doesn't sound like you are my person. In any case, I hope you find peace anon.

>>34751969
I have to move in with her. I have no other option. she does not beat me or sexually abuse me, she is bpd plus npd and verbally/mentally abuses me. I don't think I can make it through. I miss my special person, the only person who seemed to care about me. the way I was discarded and how they are suddenly so happy with someone else after all our happy years together hurts. now the added stress of losing my career and dealing with my mother is too much.
you don't have to answer if you don't want but I am curious what happened to you and how you are recovering from it.

>>34751967
itll be okay, maybe not now, but at the end of your tears you might find some peace and comfort, at least a respite for a bit, deal with it in whatever messy way you can so long as you get through the other side

>>34751913
its probably not accidental that its happening at the same time anon, maybe the structures in your life werent doing much well for you anyway, i know what you mean and i hope you realize that despite all the abuse and misery youre still a valued and loved person, even if you cant pinpoint or comprehend that love, you have your worth and strength, maybe this time it will be better, maybe things will be more stable, maybe youll have a firmer foundation, i cant promise you anything good or nice, but know that your misery doesnt define you, i appreciate you anon, just as i would appreciate anyone, your incurred agony doesnt make me see you as any less of a capable human being and perhaps in the future youll be able to forget about all the negative emotions youre feeling, one step at a time again, no matter how stuck you feel, time will always pass, you can take it however youd like, but i personally think thats a really good and comforting thing, anyhow, please contact any friends you have to see if you can crash there, scrounge up any money you have left for a motel, do odd gigs, work as a cashier, the worst thing you can do to yourself is go back to an abusive environment, but even if it comes to that, time will pass and youll get out, i believe in you anon, i believe in everyone who might not be feeling their best right now, myself included

>>34752020
Pretty much the same thing happened to me as you on top of actually losing my job. My life fell apart losing everything I thought was good at the same time more or less, but >>34752027 was right that they actually weren't good for me at all. I definitely didn't go back to living with my abusive parents though. You should really figure out an alternative living situation, it will make you worse if you don't. I'm just recovering by making sense of what happened, and figuring out a path forward in my life without being so dependent on others or people pleasing. You would benefit from some trauma therapy, there are ways to do it on your own. Tapping is pretty good.

>>34752027
well nobody values or loves me, if they do it is only temporary and they hurt me in the end. I appreciate you trying to be kind anyways. but the negative emotions did go away for the first time in my life when I was with my ex. only for me to get cheated on and abandoned in the end after all the love I gave. I have no friends. I've always been alone in this world. the people I've befriended in the past used and discarded me just like my ex. I believe in you and in others that you will make it out ok, I just don't think I will be one of those who makes it out.
>>34752042
maybe I deserve the abuse. maybe in a past life I did something terrible and this is how I atone for it. I am in therapy, been in and out most my life. it does not help me.