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For anyone who has done a martial art
Is it normal to have mixed emotions about it?
None of the stuff I've tried (Boxing, Judo, Wrestling, BJJ)
Has made me instantly think "omg I love this. This is it. I'm doing this for life"
It's usually a combination of "well that was really difficult and tiring, is this worth it, this is going to be difficult but I'll be a better person mentally and physically, I guess.. just stick with it?"
Or were you instantly hooked
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>>244716
After doing Judo I feel so fucking relaxed and happy, it's what smoking weed is supposed to feel like but really isn't. During the training it is a struggle but afterwards I felt like I was bathing in endorphins.
BJJ on the other hand didn't produce that effect on me. I just felt tired afterwards.
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purple belt in bjj here, 7 years training. I did love it instantly and competed a LOT. did very well at local events.
i think every hobby has its highs and lows, theres def days, weeks or months in a row where i'm not super motivated to train, however ive made a lot of friends that keep me motivated and there is a lot of the sport that i do love.
....i do get why people think its gay and dont enjoy it tho lol
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>>244737
I didn't get this with judo as we didn't do any randori, we just did positional newaza, pin, and very complex and unintuitive throws
I did get this feeling with boxing and wrestling as the conditioning was to the max and the sparring felt intuitive
BJJ I hated but maybe it was the instructor. We didn't roll at all just practiced guard "play around in it" he said
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I don't like training, it's not joyful
I just want to roll around with the lads for 2 or 3 rounds then go home
There's not really any reason to do anything other than that either. Training is overrated, you get better at doing things by doing the things
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>>247357
slow your roll, i do agree to a degree however there is a time and place for specifics, and that time and place is most of the time. if you want to get good at your armbar, well, how often during a roll are you in an armbar? What if it's a more specific spot, like deep half guard? It might be an important tool, but it might be a tool that you're not in long enough, or often enough. Nothing wrong with just getting a couple of rolls in though, we all need some kind break from this retarded gay life.
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>>244716
ive done taekwondo for some time and im pretty split on it. on one hand, i kinda like it but on the other its one of the most useless fighting styles for an actual fight. i would say the mixed feelings overall comes from what you want to get out of it and whether or not you are actually receiving such goals.
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>>244716
>Has made me instantly think "omg I love this. This is it. I'm doing this for life"
Nope. And I've been doing Judo for years. Recently just started BJJ too.
It's good that this is the case. The high barrier of entry filters out most normalfags and mentally ill clowns who ruin spaces (look at what happened to video games, my poor beloved).
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>>244716
>"well that was really difficult and tiring, is this worth it, this is going to be difficult but I'll be a better person mentally and physically, I guess.. just stick with it?"
Two years in and I am still wondering when the I'm lovin it part gonna start. Have to pull myself from the chair by force to actually go to the dojo everytiem
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>>244716
I tried kickboxing for some time, didnt really enjoied it and after a few pairings with people who just wanted to blow my head of activelly started to resent it (maybe has nothing to do with the sport and just had bad partners).
Now I had some trial trainings in bjj and it just felt so much better
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>>253510
Funnily enough I had the same thing tried kickboxing and had a super heavyweight of all people trying to aim for the Jaw with hard punches and hard head kicks.. I thought fuck this lmao. The coach was also rude and I got a weird vibe from everyone. I don't mind being hit hard but save that for a match where I can at least gain some false pride from it. Not spar for pointless damage
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>>244783
>very complex and unintuitive
>sparring felt intuitive
Something "feeling" intuitive is a meme. Lots of good fighting elements aren't intuitive in the slightest. People don't intuitively tuck their chins in and throw straight punches, yet boxers do it all the time.
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>>253532
Yeah but learning to tuck your chin and punch properly can be learned in 1 session and replicated live very quickly
There's a saying you won't throw anyone in randori until at least 1-2 years in
Wrestling you will take down people straight away
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>>253536
>There's a saying you won't throw anyone in randori until at least 1-2 years in
Only at shitty hobbyist schools.
>Wrestling you will take down people straight away
So will judo if you're not at a shitty hobbyist school.
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>>244716
I have trained judo, muay thai, MMA and boxing, and I was never gripped by any of them
I always feel good after training, but I never managed to get really hooked
As a result I have trained off again on again
Even now I haven't been back to boxing since christmas
I need an external motivator to keep me going back, probably a training partner - I've not had this problem with rock climbing because my gf and I go together
Maybe try bringing a friend and committing with them to keep going for e.g. six weeks?
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>>244716
I was having fun with it immediately. When I was drinking and doing drugs, when I hated my stupid fucking job, and when I was a virgin I was like "at least I can go to BJJ." Now I've done away with these sorts of things and I have my brown belt and I did a year in judo and 3 in muay thai. Now my writing is influenced by it, I cuddle my dog in BJJ positions, and class gives structure to my day I can still take solace in the fact that I get to go grab someone's lapel and shake them around.
There's a bunch of paths that get you where you want to go. You probably ought to take one you enjoy walking down.
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>>244716
I do for health reasons. For now. Maybe it will be more fun as I get better. Still a NOGI newb. Hardest part is of course just getting ot out of the door. When you get there, change. 1,5 hour and forget. Come home tired as shit knowing it's good for the body and mind.
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>>253846
What do you mean? I just don't think they happen that often. I didn't go out of my way to avoid it. I got ringworm a couple times and that was the worst of it. Sometimes things ache and hurt. But I just stretch and train. I didn't even ever choose my partners wisely, just whoever wanted to rumble in any school in any country. I don't think there's very many people throwing kani basami or really in a rush to yank your arm