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I am someone who has a variety (nothing huge) of hobbies
However, more often than not I find myself not wanting to do these hobbies / personal projects
These periods without having interest in them last months, usually at least 3, during which the activity just isn’t even an “option” in my mind
It isn’t repulsion of the idea like Ugh I don’t want to do X right now, but just a lack of consciousness of the thing
I can’t tell if this is simply not wanting to do it then or something else but either way the length of time is quite annoying
It leads to wasting time. The time I could have spent doing these things but not wanting to. Even just completing some base minimum a day would provide more progress than 0…but scheduling life outside of work in such a way feels weird
So, because of this lack of desire, I feel a sort of a lack of sense of self. I don’t have desire but I do feel this responsibility to be efficient. The lack of current self is battling with the idealized version of myself I could form via actions.
This sort of expands to wanting to everything as efficiently as possible too or to the max such as being a fan of something and catching up on content
My interests tend to vary, investing and trading, studying Japanese, Writing, anime
Then I 180 and return to one of my hobbies after 3+ month breaks
But simply put I want a sustainable normal life not these gigantic lulls where I do nearly nothing
What is this, what is the cause, what are the solutions
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I completely understand your problem, because I have the same one. Periods of interest and disinterest occur in a similar way. I have spent a lot of time trying different methods of self-discipline, but the only thing that has really helped me is organizing my weeks. That is, I simply do one thing for a week, such as reading books, and the next week I watch movies. And so on. This has helped me, and I am happy that I do not blame myself for not wanting anything, but I need it.
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>>34212294
What you describe is the 20 hour mark - achieving a "jack of all trades" mentality. Whilst this allows you to have the "introduction skill-set" - it doesn't let you finish the "first grading" of being a junior - then an apprentice - then a journeyman - then a master.
It is good that you're trying many things - you are searching for your passion. But you could short-cut it with a set of questions. Do you really want to do this for the rest of your life? Are you doing it because it's popular? Do you desire people to say "ah you're awesome" at least until people look at something else and it becomes popular - then you are forgotten again.
You need to find out who you are - what you like - what you like to do. There are personality tests and sets of questions which will guide you towards a solution. Try those now, see what they say. Come back a few days later and do it again - honestly.
Also, do the test a third time with your parents. Ask them which answer they think is best for you - after all - they have watched you your whole life. They know you better than you know yourself.
Compare all three results. First, honest, parents. Find the items which match. Find careers that match these and research each of them.
If you find that you match none of these - then you should join the military.
Are you good at math and enjoy heights? Air Force.
Are you good at physical and enjoy being in a team? Army.
Are you good at physical and enjoy being in a team which fights against all odds? Marines.
Are you good at swimming and long periods doing the same thing? Navy.
There are overlaps between all these, such as an army helicopter pilot or Navy Top Gun.
Do your first period and decide from there.
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But is there a point in life where you just lose all creativity and desire
I still do things and chat with people
But I remember being more excited for things in the past, upcoming releases, events, etc
Even gaming I remember having more fun, creating challenge runs of games to do, and things like that - now I play nothing new and don't have any creativity or wonder
Everything is drab
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>>34212294
You sound a lot like me. I'm 46 and have been like this all my life, where I go through cycles of creative energy.
I have a job and family to take care of, so that sets a floor on how much I can slack. But every few months I'll have creative energy to do or learn extra things.
I don't think this can be changed. Even being on something mentally stimulating like a carnivore diet, yeah it puts me in a good mood but it doesn't necessarily give creative energy.
I think creative energy is like goku's spirit bomb - you have to spend time gathering it first.
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don't give up anon
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Oh, that happens.
You just need rest shortly, try something that ain't connected but still similar you don't lack about trying. I mean a break in between the first process after this one if it's proven useful. Do it for that with the last time blocks even it's long for average unskilled person, then you need a consistency when you flunk out of it again.
Anything in this is fine for you to try, if it's at the moment you need an actual break for longer time and/or days-weeks rest. Just do the ones I already said.
I'm just in your interest varied a lot. Binge anime topics since you're just exhausted, I was saying the former shit and different matter you don't get and I'm not even gonna bother the replies.