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spergs 02/02/26(Mon)06:01:02 No.34220643 I really like this guy I'm always running into around college, but we're both clinical actual spergs and say nothing when we're around each other. I think I might have a chance because his friends leave me alone with him, we text, he always tries to help me out, etc, but it is so awkward irl. I run away whenever I see him because I become very nervous. I know this will probably drive him away. What do?
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)06:51:05 No.34220746 >>34220643
Take him to the college library or a park where you can have the conversation together uninterrupted
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)07:30:55 No.34220780 >>34220643
If you're both spergs you should both understand that you both have extreme social anxiety, you both mask and hide your emotions and appear as robots emotionally speaking, and that you both want to skip all the bullshit and get straight to the gf/bf stage without all the pageantry.
You should just bluntly tell him: "I like you, you and I should be boyfriend and girlfriend. Would you like to start dating?"
He will say
"Yes that is good let's date each other then."
The end. Autist/sperg romance arcs are straight to the point. And if you are both spergs you both have the ability to soothe each other's social woes, like as previously mentioned, cutting to the chase and keeping it simple.
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)07:55:56 No.34220809 >>34220643
Stop running away whenever you see him. Invite him for lunch. Ask him out.
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)08:41:51 No.34220841 >>34220643
You should have deeper conversations with him over text until you become more comfortable with each other.
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)09:34:35 No.34220888 >>34220643
That anxiety is nature telling you not to procreate. You're dysgenic and should stay single, so should he.
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)09:38:21 No.34220896 >>34220780
Almost it anon - a small fix: "Hey, uhm... You're cute. Would you like to go on a date with me this saturday? We can grab/watch/go-to x place at y hour"
Cushions, cushions.
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)10:08:01 No.34220934 >>34220643
Diagnosed ASD guy here: just stop running away and ask him out. It's not rocket science. Say "Would you like to go on a date with me?" and see what he says.
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)10:10:55 No.34220937 >>34220643
Find an excuse to chat (How did you do in the test? or I'm having trouble with this book. Help me understand it or the like) It's easier to talk when there's a subject, and that can lead to more general chat
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)11:54:06 No.34221125 >>34220888
you may actually be right i should just focus on my studies since this doesn't seem to be going anywhere bc he won't talk .. thanks anon
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)11:56:00 No.34221127 >>34221125
Pathetic. That's all it took to divert you?
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)11:59:49 No.34221128 >>34221127
well i have low self-esteem and i didn't think it'd work out anyway
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)14:46:38 No.34221384 >>34221128
If you say so
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)15:36:58 No.34221492 >>34221128
....she said, thus guaranteeing failure
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)19:40:15 No.34222053 >>34220888
Based. Given OPs reaction to basic social tasks I am once again reminded, and I say this AS A JEW, of the validity of the national socialist parties eugenics programs. Kys its probably the only good you can contribute to this world
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Anonymous
02/02/26(Mon)20:46:59 No.34222196 >>34221492
what?
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)02:31:23 No.34222916 >>34222053
>AS A SEETHING KIKE
ftfy
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)02:38:34 No.34222951 If you want to know what I would find helpful, find some way to corner him into some kind of structured activity or task.
Present a jar of buttons and ask him to help you sort them. I don't know.
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)06:58:04 No.34223569 >>34222196
You've doomed yourself
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)13:26:53 No.34223964 >>34223569
No my genetics already did
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)13:36:29 No.34223975 >>34222196
If you try, there's a chance you'll fail.
If you don't try, you guarantee failure
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)13:38:28 No.34223977 If you can't talk in person can you write a letter and hand it to him or talk online or something?
It gives you time to organise your thoughts and him time to respond. Great for people who find conversations a potential minefield
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)14:39:10 No.34224059 >>34223977
Didn't you hear her? Her genetics doomed her, she can't do it anymore.
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)14:43:22 No.34224066 >>34220643
If hes a sperg just be direct and tell him what to do and theres like a 90% chance he'll listen just out of actually getting attention. if my gf isn't direct about what she wants it won't click with me at all.
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)18:59:42 No.34224565 >>34224059
This board seems full of people will mental health issues who ask for help and then poo-poo every single suggestion lol
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)22:02:26 No.34224874 >>34224565
I'm just not brave enough I'm sorry I need the guy to make the first move, also if he isn't making it then he's probably not that interested
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)22:22:45 No.34224944 >>34224874
so give him an in to make a move. Lock him into a conversation about something he likes, and keep him there for five hours.
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Anonymous
02/03/26(Tue)23:11:32 No.34225140 >>34224944
We can go like 15 minutes trapped together in the subway and not exchange a word except to say goodbye
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Anonymous
02/04/26(Wed)06:02:46 No.34226091 >>34224874
>female dating tactic
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Anonymous
02/04/26(Wed)06:49:01 No.34226167 >>34224874
>if he isn't making it then he's probably not that interested
Or, just not brave enough. Sound familiar?
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Anonymous
02/04/26(Wed)07:58:58 No.34226260 >>34225140
Write a notice that says "do you like me?". Like a middle schooler would. He won't have the skills or awareness to approach you because his autist ass hasn't had the experience to know how to do it.
It's a real catch 22 with tism for those social skills that don't get a lot of feedback.
I had to practice study and fail a spuratic amount of times in my 20s before I found a damaged woman to put and raise my austic babies with.
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