forgot to clarify… but all the cheating he did was texting people online. we are together 24/7. he did not do anything irl

Well... once the trust is broken, it's very, very hard to make amends.
I am sorry.
You can try, but give some wiggle room to chill the relationship for awhile. Let him build up the trust, as he was the one who broke the seal.

>>34222181
please. please tell me how to get this out of my mind. i cannot deal with it, its making me insane. i am okay with it taking a while to fully regain his trust, both those messages are burned into my brain and his friend even was talking about me during the convo. i cant take it. i can’t. it hurts so fucking bad.

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>>34222201
I am sorry. Betrayal is one of the worst things we can experience. As we all are but lonely wretches and any respite is duly welcome.

However, i wouldn't give up on him yet. He does seems like he cares. Although, you shouldn't ignore your feelings.

Now it is the time to give yourself some room to process all this. It is okay to feel grief, anger, anguish and sadness. Try to go for walks, stay over at friends' houses for awhile and let yourself go of those feelings.

"Whenever you're ready."

>>34222236
i unfortunately do not have friends here… i moved across the country for him. it just i and i alone. i’d go for walks, but he is on edge as it is thinking im going to leave… he told me he knew how badly he fucked up. before he left for class, he asked if he could hug me, and whispered in my ear “are you still going to be here when i get back?…”

it broke me so badly. thinking about it makes me cry…

>>34222172
>he worships the ground i walk on.
At the time this happened, he didn't. At the time this happened, he didn't give a fuck about you. It's important to remember that.

>>34222172
I'm confused as to why you think you are responsible for the next step here. What should be happening here is, he should be grovelling and imploring you to forgive him. Instead he's got you so twisted around that you feel as if him cheating on you was somehow your fault, and that it's now your responsibility to fix the relationship that *he* broke.

It's not your job to fix this. You *should* be feeling hurt and angry right now. It's *his* job to make this right, now, not yours. He betrayed you. He needs to find a way to earn your trust again.

>>34222172
The answer is you don't. You cannot trust a cheater

>>34222172
>we are with each other 24/7.
>i left before he got back

ooooookay

it's over bro - er, sis. You got cheated on. He will cheat again.

>>34222172
It takes a special breed of stupid to think that masturbation is "cheating."

>>34222172
You silly goosette
Not everything is set in stone
He is a man, you are a woman
He wants you
You don't
He protects himself
Now you're malding
Maybe figure your shit out before you go telling your bf something so extreme as "maybe we're not sexually compatible"
Idk if you got the memo but for us Men, sex is so important. It's like the prime reason we live. To get it.
To say that to a man is like breaking up with him. But he loves you, so he stayed. He was confused, and he thought well she's not going to give me sex, but I love her still, so he stayed in this sort of weird way to keep your love going, and somehow, some way, accept that he's not going to get sex from you but to try and stay with you.
It is impossible, but part of him wanted to stay with you so bad.

Honestly dudette, if you're even a female - forgive him.
Or don't, and then move to my country instead and I will inseminate you every single day. I'm in the Netherlands

>>34222172
Youre crying because he jerked off? Holy shit grow the fuck up. Maybe dating women would work better for you

>>34222687
i was in the house. i was going to be in the house. i left to take a walk he got back bc i couldn’t stand to look at him. retard.

>>34222770
okay so sending messages to real people online and reciprocating isn’t cheating? admittedly, one of them asked for a date. and he said “i don’t know”.

>>34222786
just shut the fuck up dude, like genuinely, it was not masturbating it was messaging real people.

>>34222784
yeah. he did… he does want to stay with me. i looked at the dates too, and i told myself, “oh… this is during our lowest point of our relationship…” so i had coherence about why between the maddening insanity. the netherlands? a bit much, but i appreciate the offer.

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>>34222786
>honey i'm home!
>catches wife DJ'ing with a gachimuchi-looking ass hunk
Really? Maybe dating guys would work better for you

Look at him floundering and desperate. Ick

>>34222172
>he worships the ground i walk on. he goes feral over me. he truly loves me so much. he deleted all his friends on discord before i could ask him to.
>Not a long term relationship
>whatadumbass.jpg

>>34223603
is almost 2 years in march not a long term relationship? living together for 2 years isn’t long term?

>>34223607
Nope.

>>34223608
okay tripfaggot, im not gonna take advice from a guy who feels the need to be recognized on an anonymous wensite

>>34223611
Cool.

>>3422217
> i had thought we were sexually incompatible
You set off a bomb within your relationship, and he did nothing wrong to seek out other options, more promising fields.
If you are not feeling competitive ( with the other females), notbfeeling compelled to have afterfight sex with him, then maybe you are not sexually healthy. Check your hormones. Are you taking birth control pill? That pill can make a woman lose interest in sex. Something is wrong, if you have not considered/ offered makeupsex. He did not have sex with other woman so there is no reason to continue to cut him off from sex and force him to still look for sex elsewhere. Try to be practical. Fuck first, ask questions later.

>>34222784
I don't see anything obviously wrong in this analysis.

>>34223646
that’s the thing. around july i came out of my shell and became the free use princess him and i talked about when we first met. we fuck constantly, and the whole ordeal hasn’t prevented it. in fact, on the contrary, it is one of the only guaranteed ways to make me cool off from it bc i can feel his love inside me tangibly. when i tell you that we have fucked 1-3 times a day for months and months and months, i mean it. im waaaay too horny to stop that bc of this.

furthermore, there was absolutely zero stuff done past when we started fucking like rabbits every day, so i think this cements that point. all of it stopped completely, even 2 months before we started doing it (may is when his last cheat was, july is when i started coming out my shell and fucking every single day)

now, i have caught him playing hentai games when i was asleep. whether that’s significant, i can’t say, but just let it be known that i give this man my body daily, and i even throw myself at him. didn’t even stop when we went to his sisters house on christmas, lol.

>>34222255
>i unfortunately do not have friends here… i moved across the country for him.
I'm in a similar boat but with my gf. Though she didn't cheat on me, that I know of, but she has grown more distant, and constantly ditches me to hang out with her retarded friend.

>>34223719
im sorry to hear… that sounds abysmal. i couldn’t stand for that. i guess i should be thankful my bf dedicates all his time to me, there’s no one he even would hang out with. i guess that’s why im so conflicted, he loves me so fucking much

i hope things get better friend.

>>34223735
>i hope things get better friend.
You and me both. Thanks.

>nothing happened irl, just horny texts
>he plays hentai games when you are asleep
>"free use" mumbo jumbo
I think you should break up with him before he hurts you for real. You don't need a good enough reason those are three really good ones right there. I know you are anxiously attached but he's bad for you. Can you imagine going through a surgery or the loss of a pet and he's cranking it in the bathroom to double penetration hentai or chatting up some girl on kik

>>34223802
sorry, but i already told him idgaf about the hentai games. it’s virtual sluts who could never give him what i give him. the only reason i excuse what he did, is bc that was our relationships lowest point. there is no real way for me to prove it to you but we are practically inseparable. our love has only grown stronger.

he told me he will change with tears in his eyes. i want to give him that chance. i want to believe. this isn’t a tell me to dump him thread, bc im not going to. it’s a “help me get this shit out of my brain so i can give him the chance he deserves”.

i have full capability to search through all his shit, he even showed me all his apps one by one and explained what they were for. the only messaging app besides discord was groupme and that was for church.

i appreciate your opinion however

>>34223813
You will see op
Also, there is an easy way for men to hide their apps. Transparency is ironically a great smokescreen as is being "always together"
At least this will make you wiser when it blows up and you reflect back. Hope you don't lose too badly because you seem like a decent person

>>34222172
forgive him, when males cheat it's not often as deep as you think it is, they just fuck and go without any romantic feeling unlike females who get almost all of their connection from sex, so just forgive

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>>34226761
Ok Jorge.

Imagine the man that gets to marry another man's "free use princess," gross. Gentlemen, remember, no hymen no diamond.

OP, men do this all the time. Don't think too much into it. I'm rather impressed the free use princess worries that much about a man jerking off. After all these terms are used exclusively by degenerates. What's news? Also give him a break, a man has needs and these are stronger and far beyond your understanding. We are rape apes and he had to put up with your shit you stupid whore.

In all seriousness, independently of how ridiculous your definition of betrayal is, he's gotta put in work and demonstrate he's even more worthy than before. I'd personally give the relationship a break to do some serious introspection and then a trial period. Just don't be fooled by a performance.

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