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is it genuinely possible to simply not care about being loved? im not just talking about not having a gf. I mean no family no (at least close) friends and partner. Im sure if i genuinely wouldnt give a fuck i would probably be an excellent university student (im in education and if i do everything right ill be in uni soon) and be on my way to have a high paying job i enjoy. However the constant inner void makes it hard to do anything.
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yea, but I strongly believe you have to be born with that ability....I don't know how you would develop this mindset
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Consider this: hundreds of thousands of years were invested into your human vessel developing as a social animal. So much so that humans are the apex complex organism because of their brains and ability to connect. So unless you have a brain injury/ mental illness /severe neurodivergence etc, then no , you will always yearn for others
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>>34223900
what about cabin innawoods men who just venture out for years?
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>>34223783
You have to realise that God died for you and from there its really easy
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>>34223783
i did it for 5 years but then started to feel horny again so i got a gf. It's possible if you're busy with other stuff
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>>34223783
Not only is it possible, it's necessary for happiness. Happiness can only come from self sufficiency. Anyone who thinks himself happy while depending on outside validation is not actually happy, he's in a state of misery that's simply waiting to be revealed to him because all relationships are impermanent. Only someone who's made peace with himself can have inner peace, and inside yourself is the only place peace can exist since the outside world is in constant tumult.
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>>34223907
you have to truly love yourself to be alone like that, like I find it more entertaining conversing with myself then others most times...I think its most difficult for people who have never ever been forced to be alone for long times, thereby developing a strong relationship with yourself...but you have to be little narcissistic to not care how others feel about you and thats just not most people
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>>34223783
I won't read obscure non-problem threads. Ask for advice next time.
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Yeah, we call you people sociopaths and psychopaths, depending on how you act.
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>>34224228
>but you have to be little narcissistic to not care how others feel about you
It's the other way around. Narcissists are terribly invested in what other people think, because they have no foundation for their self worth and have to lean on other people. Only somebody who is truly humble can be content with being looked down on and disrespected. Humility is an exceedingly rare trait, which is why it's so uncommon for people to be able to live happily without external validation.

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