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is it genuinely possible to simply not care about being loved? im not just talking about not having a gf. I mean no family no (at least close) friends and partner. Im sure if i genuinely wouldnt give a fuck i would probably be an excellent university student (im in education and if i do everything right ill be in uni soon) and be on my way to have a high paying job i enjoy. However the constant inner void makes it hard to do anything.
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Consider this: hundreds of thousands of years were invested into your human vessel developing as a social animal. So much so that humans are the apex complex organism because of their brains and ability to connect. So unless you have a brain injury/ mental illness /severe neurodivergence etc, then no , you will always yearn for others
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Not only is it possible, it's necessary for happiness. Happiness can only come from self sufficiency. Anyone who thinks himself happy while depending on outside validation is not actually happy, he's in a state of misery that's simply waiting to be revealed to him because all relationships are impermanent. Only someone who's made peace with himself can have inner peace, and inside yourself is the only place peace can exist since the outside world is in constant tumult.
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you have to truly love yourself to be alone like that, like I find it more entertaining conversing with myself then others most times...I think its most difficult for people who have never ever been forced to be alone for long times, thereby developing a strong relationship with yourself...but you have to be little narcissistic to not care how others feel about you and thats just not most people
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>but you have to be little narcissistic to not care how others feel about you
It's the other way around. Narcissists are terribly invested in what other people think, because they have no foundation for their self worth and have to lean on other people. Only somebody who is truly humble can be content with being looked down on and disrespected. Humility is an exceedingly rare trait, which is why it's so uncommon for people to be able to live happily without external validation.